Grief

As of today, August 4, 2020, we are in a season when many people have suffered losses. The greatest of these is the loss of loved ones through death. There is much grief and pain.

Presently, I have not had to deal with grief throughout my life as much as others. I’ve been fortunate. So, I don’t claim to be an expert on the subject. Also, it’s a really personal, sensitive topic. Therefore, I want to tread lightly. However, I know that many people struggle with grief. Here is my input on the matter.

First of all, allow yourself to grieve. Even if you’re confident that your loved one has gone to heaven, it’s fine to grieve. Although they’re in a better place, you will miss them here. Grief is not weakness. It’s another emotion that should be expressed in a healthy manner. Don’t suppress it nor rush it. Secondly, know that grief is personal. It's based on the relationship you had with the deceased. Therefore, no one can tell another person how to grieve. Thirdly, know that there’s freedom in the truth. (John 8:32) When grieving, we have the tendency to comfort ourselves by saying and believing whatever sounds and feels good. However, is it true? I suggest praying and asking God to help you deal with your loss. I believe it’s perfectly fine to ask Him to answer your questions. He knows how much truth we can handle and will respond accordingly. Most importantly, know that He is not an insensitive God. He has experienced a death in His family, too. He knows. He cares. Others do, too. You’re not alone.

So, don’t deny your grief. Ask God for peace, strength, and answers. Know that others understand and care, then allow them to support you through your time of bereavement. You’ll get through this…one day at a time.