Why marry?

Years ago, God asked me, “When you envision yourself married, what’s the first thing you see?” My response was, “My wedding day.” He said, “Exactly. That’s what you really want. You just want to have a wedding.”

Well, that was an eye opener. It made me realize that I was not in touch with myself as well as I thought. I’ve matured since then, and I know better. I’m grateful that God did not allow me to marry during my season of ignorance.

Now, I want to pose that question to others. When you envision yourself married, what’s the first thing you see? Whatever it is, that’s what you really want. The fact is that many expect marriage to be their solution when their true desires call for something else. In my case, I LOVE weddings. If the opportunity had presented itself, I may have made a lifetime commitment just to get a one-day celebration. More than likely, that would not have ended well. So, you have to do some soul searching and figure it out. Do you just want sex? Do you just want a roommate or someone to help you pay bills? Did you read a good romance novel that left you with a romantic fantasy in your mind that you want to experience? These are questions that should be answered. Because, if/when you do marry, you want to be aware of what you’re getting into and that you’re getting into it for the right reasons.